Why You Need Constructive Criticism

Learning how to gracefully take it (and fairly dish it out yourself) can help pump up your creativity and competitive edge.

photo credit: Meghan Duthu

photo credit: Meghan Duthu

Nobody likes to be criticized­—especially on their creative work—but creating in a vacuum isn’t going to help you develop much of a competitive edge either. The delivery of practical and useful criticism, however, can mean all the difference between ‘friendly feedback’ and an all out assault on your ego.  

If it comes out of the blue, it can throw you off balance, and even ruin your day. For some people, it may ruin more than just one day if they take it personally. There is a difference between Constructive Criticism and Destructive Criticism. Whilst the constructive type seeks to build (note the word "construct"), destructive criticism seeks just the opposite, which is to destroy.

Someone who delivers constructive criticism will normally have your best interests at heart. They will have carefully thought about what they needed to say to you, and it will come from a position of genuine concern, or a desire to help you. It is often difficult for them to do if they care about you and don’t want to offend you. It takes courage to deliver, especially if they believe that you won’t take it well.

Hearing constructive criticism may be hard to take but can help you keep your creative edge sharp.

Destructive critics, on the other hand, do not have your best interests at heart. Their motivation will be to harm you, not to help you. The reason for this could be anything from jealousy, an attempt to sabotage your success or happiness, or...they just don’t like you. Perhaps they are just a disagreeable human being who habitually criticizes everyone. It may be blurted out, or they may have plotted how best to hurt you beforehand.

Once you have determined that the criticism is destructive, generally untrue and meant to hurt you, you need to square your shoulders and shrug it off. If there is any grain of truth you can glean from the unkind message, use it to your best advantage, but do not dwell on the negative. That way you walk away from the situation as a winner, probably not what the destructive individual intended.

If you have determined that the criticism is constructive, and delivered by someone you believe cares for you, it can hurt more because of the nature of the relationship. Someone you respect or care for has found something in you which is not perfect, and needs attention. You will feel an inevitable sting of discomfort; maybe instant denial will spring from your lips. You may even have some hurt feelings. Sometimes the criticism may come from someone who looks up to you, like a child or younger person, and it may feel a little awkward.


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Photo credit: shutterstock.com

WHAT CAN YOU DO?

First off, remind yourself who is giving the criticism.

IF IT IS DESTRUCTIVE CRITICISM...

  • Breathe. Just breathe...
  • Once the initial shock has worn off, take the high road and smile. Even throw a ‘thank you’ at them. Then simply ignore them and get back to work.

IF IT IS CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM...

  • Once the initial shock has worn off, take a deep breath and consider the merits of the criticism.
  • Face up to the truth behind the criticism. What is the truth, however ugly it may be? It may hurt to admit the truth. Although it may hurt, it is necessary for improvement.
  • Consider it a wakeup call. Sometimes we get so caught up in the daily grind of life that we may not recognize that there is a problem. This call to attention may prevent greater problems down the line if left unchecked.
  • Think of the courage it took to share this information with you, and thank the sharer. They will be more likely to tell you the truth in the future if you are gracious.
  • Make steps to improve the situation. Whatever you can do, whether it is to change some aspect of your behavior, to change an aspect of your work or something else, you need to take action so that you can benefit from the constructive criticism.
  • Learn from your mistakes and do not fall back into old patterns of doing things.
  • Go forward in victory, having gained a valuable key to growth in your life.

 

This article was originally published in Art Hive Magazine | Issue 23 | Fall 2017